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before i get started i couldn't decide if i should post this here, or here. so, in the future i might follow up over at above the clouds.
anyway...
last thursday we laid my mother-in-law to rest. my sisters-in-law said about 10 words to me the entire time we were in louisiana. upon leaving, my husband dropped by his parents' home to give his oldest sister the fema application she mailed to our home.
they were evacuated due to hurricane rita and had to spend my mother-in-law's final days in nashville. because my oldest sister-in-law has no money and all her credit cards are maxed out, my husband gave her a credit card to use while there with the agreement that once she got reimbursed from fema (~$2,000), she would use that to pay him back.
so, i'm sure you know where i'm going with this. that little witch got reimbursed by going in person to a fema office in nashville and was never going to tell my husband. she was planning on sticking my husband with her $2,500 in charges and still get $2,000 from fema on top of that. and if that wasn't bad enough, the reason the card was so high was because she and the younger witch-in-law went shopping at the gap, express and a women's specialty clothing store.
now that my husband is pressing them for money, they have decided that he is not a good brother. in their words, he is not to call them because he is dead in their eyes. they have lost a mother and brother. so, he can just stay in texas with his "dear wife."
w....t....h!!!!
now, when it comes to money i'm pretty miserly ... well, i'm pretty conservativ.... heck i'm cheap! so, i never would have agreed to this if i felt they weren't in extreme need and this was also for the care of my mother-in-law. but i do have to say this has been a huge lesson learned.
1. never hand over your credit card.
2. first impressions can definitely be deceiving!
and for those of you who know me and are wondering why i didn't give them a piece or two of my mind (because i know they have lost theirs) ... search james 1:26 niv ... even a person like me can find strength through the word.
before i get started i couldn't decide if i should post this here, or here. so, in the future i might follow up over at above the clouds.
anyway...
last thursday we laid my mother-in-law to rest. my sisters-in-law said about 10 words to me the entire time we were in louisiana. upon leaving, my husband dropped by his parents' home to give his oldest sister the fema application she mailed to our home.
they were evacuated due to hurricane rita and had to spend my mother-in-law's final days in nashville. because my oldest sister-in-law has no money and all her credit cards are maxed out, my husband gave her a credit card to use while there with the agreement that once she got reimbursed from fema (~$2,000), she would use that to pay him back.
so, i'm sure you know where i'm going with this. that little witch got reimbursed by going in person to a fema office in nashville and was never going to tell my husband. she was planning on sticking my husband with her $2,500 in charges and still get $2,000 from fema on top of that. and if that wasn't bad enough, the reason the card was so high was because she and the younger witch-in-law went shopping at the gap, express and a women's specialty clothing store.
now that my husband is pressing them for money, they have decided that he is not a good brother. in their words, he is not to call them because he is dead in their eyes. they have lost a mother and brother. so, he can just stay in texas with his "dear wife."
w....t....h!!!!
now, when it comes to money i'm pretty miserly ... well, i'm pretty conservativ.... heck i'm cheap! so, i never would have agreed to this if i felt they weren't in extreme need and this was also for the care of my mother-in-law. but i do have to say this has been a huge lesson learned.
1. never hand over your credit card.
2. first impressions can definitely be deceiving!
and for those of you who know me and are wondering why i didn't give them a piece or two of my mind (because i know they have lost theirs) ... search james 1:26 niv ... even a person like me can find strength through the word.
3 lovely comments:
mrcrazyone said...
In situations like that you just have to chalk it up as a lesson learned and go on about your life. You never have to worry about lending them money again. That is the good thing. Some family you are better off not associating with at all.
princessdominique said...
Sorry they stiffed him. Its sad but you watch how that money goes through their hands like water. They'll be back and you'll see.
Ontario Emperor said...
I guess the proper approach is that if you loan money to someone, assume that it will never be paid back. Sad, but true.
I don't know the history of your husband's family, so I don't know if things are exacerbated by your mother in law's death. Perhaps they are, perhaps not.