isn't she lovely?

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i will admit i have never seen the movie, "jerry maguire." to be honest, i am not a movie buff. there are classics that i have never taken the time to watch. i'd just rather curl up with a good book. but i digress.

so, i've never seen the movie, but i have heard the infamous line in context, "you complete me." and i despise it. i don't proclaim to be a relationship expert; although i've had a lot of experience in that arena. my personal belief is that a person should be complete on their own. each person should be whole. if that person chooses to be in a relationship, the partner should supplement, not complement, the other. you shouldn't need certain things from a partner to validate your being.

i'll admit. i used to be this way. i felt that i needed someone to make me happy, to make me laugh, to help make my life great. after some failed relationships and soul searching, i realized i am completely capable of creating my own happiness by finding joy in the lord. i can find laughter in the good and not so good things in life. my life is great. the things i consider failures are just that - things. i am whole; i am woman, hear me roar - the whole bit!

so, if you need someone to complete your circle by making you laugh, being submissive or catering to your every need, maybe you should re-evaluate your life focus. while i wish you the best of luck with that, i tihnk you'd be better advised to make your own life beautiful before engaging in a relationship and placing that responsibility (read: burden) on someone else.